SAKSHEE
RAI
I absolutely have no words for the
misogyny and misandry that I see in the people in our society. An Instagram
group chat by the name “Bois locker room” where a bunch of male students,
majority of whom are teenagers from different schools shared objectionable
pictures of women, including underage girls, objectified them, made “jokes”
about their body. The group chat is one of the most sinister manifestations of
misogyny. It's a bit strange how people openly joke and giggle teasing about
body parts as we walk down the road, body shaming, sexual harassment, gender
inequality, etc. but get extremely uncomfortable when it's involved in a
serious conversation. This isn't just about objectifying women, it just how
sick one can be in the name of 'boys will be boys'. For the matter of the
'Girls Locker Room', another set of inappropriate chats, particular
interest in something, of your gender and the opposite doesn't make anyone less
man or woman. Saying that everyone does that, every teenager and company
chaffers with their friends about others, but no. Crushing over guys/girls,
asking someone to set you up is not the same as morphing pictures of boys and
girls or sharing their nudes. Everyone is talking about the problem and not of
the solution. Girls objectifying boys, boys objectifying girls, the problem
remains the same- OBJECTIFYING. If you retaliate to the boys locker room saying
that girls locker room exists, does it help curbing the core problem in any
way? Does it do anything in helping out the victims? No. It only shows how
deeply rooted the problem of hatred and oppression and the patriarchal system
is in the society. It has been recently found out that the girl who bought
#boyslockerroom out and claimed of getting rape threats had actually created a
fake id under name Sidhhart and tried to trap a guy while discussing a plan to
rape her only to check the reaction of the guy and to test his strength of
character. It is beyond shameful and disgusting to use your platform to deceive
your followers. The girl deserves her share of investigation and outcome on
her. But those people who are justifying the boys’ locker room with this
investigation, I would like to tell them that these fake chats were on
Snapchat, the boys locker room chats are still there on Instagram and are real.
While you are at it, that these are two different cases, refrain from
'generalising' cases and people. Know the facts. Know what's wrong is wrong.
The girl is undoubtedly wrong here, it is a separate incident. For the
teenager, Manav, who lost his life, is a separate incident. The girls who had a
girls locker room is still wrong and disgusting and needs to be aforementioned
and the boys locker room incident is derogatory, the fact still remains they illicitly
shared nudes, talked horrendously ill, degraded and disrespected each other.
But normalization of rape is still wrong. And now don't begin the rant 'not all
men', 'women are horrible too'. It's never about all men or women, it's about
what those people do wrong. Consent, education is at threshold. Some men are
becoming victims of false accusations. Girls are equally wrong and accountable.
Don't come to me quoting 'Girls are innocent till they are proven guilty and
boys are guilty till they are proven innocent'. But can you call them innocent
when the evidence is slapping you in the face? If you are still justifying the
words and actions of such monsters, you are just as pathetic. I pity you. I
pity your family. Please don't justify such words and acts by saying its
'Indian Mentality'. It not 'Indian Mentality', it's your fucking
mentality. It's very easy to share stories from the comfort of your bed only to
forget about it after sometime. It won't help this way. See when you say 'yes
all men' it reminds me of my father who has always stood up for me and told me
right from wrong. It reminds me of my guy friends with whom I have openly
discussed about feminism, body positivity, and male privilege with being judged
or told to shut up. So I'll not stand for the narrative of 'yes all men'. But
to believe in this or feel this at the same time is immensely difficult for
majority of women as male oppression has been timeless and never ending in all
spheres. So for all those men who are accusing women of pseudo feminism and
waiting for them to apologize for merely voicing out their concerns about
objectification online please know that those girls may be fraud, the chats me
be fake but normalization of such issues is wrong. Girls and boys, you haven't
got any right to disrespect anyone. It is a fight against the mentality around
us, not the gender. To all the people out there who are trying to correct
themselves and improve their behavior, I appreciate you. I respect you.
Editor’s
Note: Wrong is wrong, it is not about the genders. We need to understand
this and incorporate this in our lives. Also, the people who keep saying why
girls are always speaking about ‘feminism’ and ‘rights’ even in 2020, is
because men have oppressed women since time immemorial and they still are. Whether
we accept or not, there is male oppression in every house, in very little
minute forms that we may not even realize.
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